In light of recent stalkerish stories, two incidents from last weekend’s PAX video game show, make for disturbing readings.
While it occurred at an event that wasn’t officially affiliated with PAX, the incident recalled by female video game blogger Kyle is perhaps given away by her blog post title: Boundaries and The Penis Incident:
I’m not okay with it, but I’m dealing with it better than I was right after it happened. Hell, I was even on the phone with my airline trying to see how early I could leave as soon as I got back to my hotel. I’m trying my best to keep it separated in my mind from the rest of PAX as to not let it overshadow the awesome time I had this weekend. It’s fucked up and I keep replaying the scene in my head and trying to figure out what I could have done differently to keep it from happening. People tell me I should’ve called the cops or screamed or made a huge scene, but I didn’t want that type of attention and the reaction of the security guard made me feel like cops would be even more of a waste. I actually even deleted a lot of the tweets I posted, because I felt ashamed and embarrassed that this happened to me. I didn’t want to ruin the party/PAX for other people. I don’t want people to pity me. “I’m stronger than this” I kept saying to myself as I was crying. So yeah. Needed to get that shit off my chest. And I’m sure all the drunk, self-loathing tweets that I sent out at the time weren’t really helpful, but I definitely don’t want to act like this didn’t happen. This is more common than people think and could happen to anyone you love, anywhere, anytime, in any community. A girl should be able to go and sit alone at a party and not be bothered, or go where they want and dress how they want and not be treated like that.
But lest you think this was only a sexy girl geek thing, MALE IGN writer Ryan Clemente was also the unwilling recipient of unwanted touching:
Her blog inspired me to make an important point of my own; a point that I hope all IGN fans and “fans” take to heart and protect each other from. My situation was nowhere near as devastating as hers, but it deserves some attention and analysis.
While I agree that diminishing women who complain about abuse—online or in person—that “men get abused, too” is often a tactic to diminish complaints by women, it is important to note that inappropriate is inappropriate and as the previous story on Ed Kramer shows, boys can certainly be victims.
Finally, I knew my complaints about online abuser John V. were small compared to what DCWKA’s Sue had gone through, but this is truly sickening:
wrote, in response to dcwomenkickingass:
I wonder if your kids died of cancer, would you be so sassy?
At this point I sent him the cyberstalking law for a state his IP address pointed too. That just got him going even more.
sueshypocriteskickingass <[email protected]> wrote, in response to dcwomenkickingass:
oh wait…was I banned? Wait…I hear the police at my door. Did you turn me in? Curse you Sue! lmfao
John V. used over 70 different IP addresses to keep harassing Sue. Have any laws been broken here? I sure hope so because maybe then we can really stop this creep.
Sue’s story also highlights the inefficiency of the “ignore it and it will go away” response. As I said in my post yesterday, I considered John V> mostly an attention troll. Now that I’ve read about his other activities I see that I was wrong. This goes way deeper and is far sicker than just calling for attention on the internet.
And you wonder why women cry out for strong female role models?