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By: Carmen

Carmen — Sun, 09 Jan 2011 03:33:49 +0000

For me, it’s not just about the sexual things between yaoi pairings. There are just certain characters, where a you can make the connection so deep, and so… I really havn’t got words for it. And sometimes, you just can’t do that with het pairings.
And some of the things that go on between yaoi pairings, are so adorable, and fluffy! It’s not about male on male, its about the characters being in love. There are many stories, where the sexuality of the characters, don’t matter, hell they’re not even mentioned, as if slash was completely a normal thing just like het. The stories mention nothing of the characters gender, it just about two characters, who happen to be male, falling in love. And after reading slash for so long, their gender means absolutly nothing to me.

It shouldn’t be a big deal why we like slash. Maybe it fantasy, maybe it sexual fantasy, or maybe its to get away from the real world, I don’t know or care and neither should other people. Nobody questions why guys love (as i call it) femslash or lesbians in real life, because their answer would be “They’re guys, that’s why.” Now that is unfair. A woman’s love for slash does not depend on gender, it depends on personal preferance, which is something people should eventually learn.

By: EC

EC — Sun, 09 Jan 2011 03:23:10 +0000

Once I got hooked on slash, particularly wrestling slash, it had its teeth sunk into me. I suppose I love it because its more interesting than het pairings. Every fanfiction story I’ve read with het pairings, is so predictable, and boring, as Joolz said. But yaoi just does something for me. The situations you can put the characters in are so much more interesting, fun and adventurous.
With wrestling, watching the matches and storylines are core inspiration for wrestling writers.
Wrestling writers also find sex appeal in it, so it’s not just an obsession (though we may be on the borderline of obsessed with the small details and touches we pick up during matches).
All I know is, that I could never write a story with heterosexual pairing, it’s just to boring and unappealing.

By: Someone

Someone — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 05:28:24 +0000

I’m only 14, but I have read a yaoi or two… or three. I have a few reasons why I like it. One, beacause they really go into detail about their relationship. Two, because I do think that some guy on guy things are cute. Third, the ukes in the story are always so adorable! To me it’s not about a “sexual fantasy” at all. Personally, I kind of find yaoi put in those terms discusting. I mean I read it for the story, not the gender.

I don’t understand why you see so many articles about why girls like yaoi. I mean, if a guy says that he likes girl on girl it’s okay because he’s a guy. But if a girl says she likes yaoi people go off writing articles about why. People think it’s strange when a girl likes yaoi, but not when a guy like yuri. I personally think it’s idiotic and sexcist, but hey, that’s just me.

To me, when I think of sexuality I try not to think about it as gay or straight, but as “in love”. That would be one reason I don’t have a problem with yaoi, or yuri really. I don’t understand why some people don’t seem to get that. I mean, if your someone’s friend and they turn out to be gay, why would you reject them? I’m not saying everyone would do that, but I know some homophobics and it just makes me sad to see that someone would be judged based on their sexuality.

Ok, so I realize I totally went off the original subject (and ranted a little), but I thought that a few points should be brought out.

Just a note to Lucas: Don’t bash Gravitation! It’s awesome =P

By: nikki Hughes

nikki Hughes — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 02:26:15 +0000

weeeeellll……..I am a pansexual girl.in other words “gender blind”.
I love yaoi and I do not know what makes me like it.
and when I search for answers I never get them.
I like both of them because I think the power of love is great and if you love someone (regardless of gender) you should love them no matter what!
I hate people who like women because… well they’re women. god and when A boy discovers the girl they liked is a boy the go all like…you’re a boy?! eeww!
dammit if you liked her that means you like her no matter whet gender she/he has.
I don’t watch yuri but I’m not against it u.u
I’d also would like to see yaoi or yuri anime who has real troubles of homosexual couples who are afraid of “coming out of the closet” because people are soo mean! I mean…they love eachother why are you critizising them?….in my case I’d say: “you know what? I’m pansexual deal with it!” I coulden’t care less about their opinions. unfortunately some homosexuals aren’t like me and they do care about the opinions of other people.
I hate people who don’t understand homos.they make fun of them withought thinking about their feelings. ……Peaople are just soo mean to others it makes me want to cry for them T_T

By: Elslight

Elslight — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 01:51:49 +0000

I must say that I have a preference for yaoi manga or Anime although I do not go towards the shows depicting real men. I find some of the story lines to be very creative and sometimes dramatic. I also admire the art rendered in the historical types. Being an (older married woman) without any type of marital problems. I do not tend to like porn, or depictions of “real” people. I don’t think that I watch yaoi specifically for any type of specific sexual fantasy. I must say I mostly enjoy something that I do not have or need to relate to reality. I find the Japanese manga and anime to be the most beautifully rendered. I think the yaoi written by women to be especially moving emotionally.

By: Lampos Maosc

Lampos Maosc — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 13:17:43 +0000

I’ve just been letting everything wash over me these days, but shrug. I don’t care. Not much on my mind to speak of. I haven’t been up to much.

By: Lucas

Lucas — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 06:42:52 +0000

The main difference between yaoi/yuri drawn by women and yuri drawn by men/ het is the people involved in it; yaoi tends to be a lot more tender and (comparatively) more story driven. Yes, its smut plain and simple, but its smut with atleast a bit of drive. Yuri drawn by men/het usually involves a few mangled sentences before people start having sex.

Also; the argument that it it takes out gender roles is complete crap; give me characters that arent just an uke and a seme, if they were interc hangeable and actually changed their rolls in bed it would add the the psychological realism and (hopefully) end the damn super uke syndrome that seems to have come from gravitation.

Another thing; please stop the doujinshi. All it does is hurt.

(sorry for the bad grammar, not proof reading and im writing this during some turds box stepping speach class)

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By: Finesse Page

Finesse Page — Fri, 02 May 2008 00:34:50 +0000

[...] She couldn’t have said it better: ”I’ve recently discovered yaoi and consider it beautiful and breathless. I’ve wondered myself what, exactly, appeals to me about it, and have mostly failed to come up with the words. I think, perhaps, there is something about seeing a man so completely overcome that he responds directly to the person, regardless of anything (including gender!). So many men, at least in this culture, seem so very divorced from their emotions that it’s a delight to see (once again, for me) the sweep and power of male passion: I can imagine myself as one of the participants, the object of all that desire.“ So was the comment of 55 year-old widow on The Beat’s Article on “Yaoi and Boy’s Love” featured on Publisher’s Weekly. I couldn’t agree more. Nothing like the sweeping passion of a man to set all our female hearts aflutter. If men knew just how powerful their emotions are… if they knew… [...]

By: Mary-ro

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By: Jaime

Jaime — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 14:24:32 +0000

the comment above is seriously stupid and in poor taste. “ehh??”

But to answer his question above a woman finding her husband in bed with another, it depends.
I would probably get mad that my husband kept his attraction to men a secret from me, but to make up for it, he should let me watch. It’s the least he can do.
If the other dude is really hot, he can move in and we can hopefully engage in threesomes. It would be so great to come home and see them going at it!

(of course, that is just my opinion. Some people don’t like sharing….but I don’t think I would have a problem sharing my man with another sexy man, as long as I was included somehow as well.)

And I think this goes for the majority of straight guys. They would be outright lying if they said they had something against having their girlfriend be with another woman, as long as they all had a threesome.
In the same way, I enjoy watching good looking males together, and if it happened in real life I would probably thank my lucky stars.

In conclusion, I think yaoi is awesome and I am so greatful it exsists.

By: KaNg

KaNg — Thu, 06 Dec 2007 02:32:35 +0000

One thing i’d like to ask the girls that loves Yaoi, is that ??
How would they feel when at some night they go to the bedroom and sees their husband having sex with another man ??
they’d probably get hot and sit bakc and watch them ehh ??

i like yuri pretty much especialy the part where ya see the girls squeezes eath others’s tits and lift up to their short skirts exposing their tight thong’d! ass
but i don’t like it when they ingage in dildo sex. seriously i’d prefer a man humping the girl
as for Yaoi ?? i think its completely disgusting!! disturbing and since most girls complains whenever their man turn into queers why do they enjoy watching two men humping each other ?? its sick
and i pressume since some men in here loves Yaoi, they pretty much would love ingaging in some gay sex ehh ??
please i would like to get some replies

By: nico

nico — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 17:02:49 +0000

Yaoi is over the age of 16, Shota is under 16 please get it right. thanks..good article by the way…

By: a wisper on the wind.

a wisper on the wind. — Thu, 28 Jun 2007 17:16:42 +0000

I see yaoi, in part, as a reaction to modern women’s revulsion to romance. Personily I love the idea of romance despite my distaste for it. A lot of straight romances that are available I find hard to swallow but because I find it easier to disconnect myself from it I feel I get into it more, and its often explicit nature just keeps my cynical side in check when the romance gets to heavy, if as nothing more than as a distraction.

Yaoi means so much to me it’s a romance I can handle, though not everyone I know would believe that.